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Breaking the 'Beige Food' Cycle: Tips for Parents of Highly Selective Eaters

Updated: Mar 3



A small boy eating chicken nuggets

Picky eating can be a real challenge for parents, especially when your child only eats a few foods. Selective eaters tend to prefer bland or familiar foods, often sticking to a primarily 'beige foods' diet. You know - pasta, bread, tortillas, chicken nuggets, fries, chips...sound familiar?


It can be so frustrating for parents who want their children to eat a variety of healthy foods. Dealing with a picky eater can make meal planning and preparation a real challenge for parents. If you have a picky eater, you may also worry that your child isn't getting all the nutrients they need to grow and develop properly.


It's not uncommon for kids to go through a period of selective eating during childhood. Some studies even suggest that up to 50% of children experience picky eating behavior at some point. The key is finding a healthy way to work through it, instead of waiting for kids to grow out of it...which seems to be the less common theme about picky eating.


Today we'll explore the psychology behind picky eaters, the impact of picky eating on children, and tips to help with your picky eater, including how you can break the beige food cycle of eating.


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Understanding the psychology of picky eaters

The psychology of picky eaters is complex and can be influenced by a variety of factors. Some children may have a genetic predisposition to picky eating, while others may be influenced by their environment or experiences. For example, if a child has had a negative experience with a certain food, they may be less likely to eat it in the future.

Another factor that can influence picky eating is a child's temperament. Some children are naturally more cautious and may be hesitant to try new foods. This can be frustrating for parents, but it's important to respect your child's preferences and not force them to eat foods they don't want to.


Kids with special needs, including those with autism, are often extremely picky eaters. Read our article here for more insights into autism and picky eating habits.

The impact of picky eating on children

Picky eating can have a variety of impacts on children, both physical and emotional. Children who are picky eaters may not be getting all the nutrients they need to grow and develop properly. This can lead to deficiencies in vitamins and minerals, which can impact their physical health.

Picky eating can also have emotional impacts on children, leading to anxiety and stress around meal times. Children may feel pressure to eat foods they don't like, which can lead to power struggles and conflict with parents. It's important to create a positive and relaxed atmosphere around meal times to help alleviate some of this stress.

Identifying Picky Eating and Possible Contributors

All children have their own unique preferences and tastes. However, if your child is consistently refusing to eat a variety of foods or is only eating a few select foods, they may be a picky eater. It's important to keep in mind that picky eating is a behavior and not a diagnosis. If you're concerned about your child's nutrition or growth, it's always a good idea to speak with your pediatrician. There are a variety of factors that can contribute to picky eating in children. Some children may be genetically predisposed to picky eating, while others may have had negative experiences with certain foods in the past.

Other factors that can contribute to picky eating include anxiety, sensory issues, and gastrointestinal issues. It's important to consider all of these factors when trying to understand why your child is a picky eater.

Breaking the beige food cycle

Breaking the beige food cycle can be a real challenge for parents, but it's important for your child's health and well-being. One way to do this is by introducing new foods gradually and in small amounts.


It can take up to 10-20 exposures to a new food before a child will accept it, so don't be discouraged if your child doesn't like a new food right away.

Another way to break the beige food cycle is by involving your child in meal planning and preparation. Let them help you choose new foods, and try and encourage them to help you prep snacks and meals. This can help create a positive association with new foods and make meal times more enjoyable for everyone.


A toddler girl eating a healthy plate of food

Here are some additional tips for parents of picky eaters:

  • Be patient and don't force your child to eat foods they don't want to.

  • Offer a variety of healthy foods at each meal, including fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.

  • Make meal times enjoyable and relaxed, without pressure to eat.

  • Involve your child in meal planning and preparation.

  • Offer new foods gradually and in small amounts.

  • Don't offer alternative meals if your child refuses to eat what's on their plate.

Encouraging healthy eating habits is important for all children, but especially for picky eaters.


Here are some tips for encouraging healthy eating habits:

  • Offer a variety of healthy foods at each meal.

  • Set a good example by eating a variety of healthy foods yourself.

  • Make meal times enjoyable and relaxed.

  • Don't use food as a reward or punishment.

  • Encourage your child to try new foods, but don't force them to eat anything they don't want to.

  • Limit sugary and processed foods.

Check out the short

parent guidebook

Build a Better Eater for more picky eating insights and tips for turning your picky eater into a Brave Taster.



Seeking professional help for picky eaters

If you're concerned about your child's nutrition or growth, it's always a good idea to speak with your pediatrician. They can help determine if there are any underlying issues contributing to your child's picky eating and provide guidance on how to address them.

In Summary

Picky eating can be a real challenge for parents, but it's important to remember that it's often a normal part of childhood development. By understanding the psychology behind picky eating, continuing to offer a variety of healthy foods, and creating a positive and relaxed atmosphere around meal times, you can help your child break the beige food cycle and develop healthy eating habits that will last a lifetime. Remember to be patient and consistent, and don't hesitate to seek professional feeding support if needed.


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